No Blame, No Shame, No Splane

(A Practice Guide for Clearing the Architecture)

"The architecture was always there.

These practices simply clear what blocks your view."

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WHAT THIS IS

This is not instruction. This is observation of what happens when the three obstructions dissolve.

If you've read The Architecture of Alchemy, you know the framework: No Blame clears SEE and CHOOSE. No Shame clears REACH and MEET. No Splane clears BUILD. Together they make CROSS possible.

But knowing the architecture and standing inside it are different things.

This piece maps the actual mechanics. Not what you should believe, but what you might notice when you work with these clearings. Where the obstructions actually live in your day. How to recognize them. What shifts when they dissolve.

These are field notes from the territory. Use what serves. Leave what doesn't.

RECOGNIZING THE OBSTRUCTIONS

How to Know When Blame Is Active

You're rehearsing the case. Running through evidence. Building the argument for why it's their fault—their pattern, their wound, their responsibility. Your mind is prosecuting even when no one is in the room.

You feel the need to establish causation before you can move. "If I can just show them that this started with their behavior, then..." The relationship is frozen while you build the case.

When someone suggests you contributed to the problem, your immediate response is defensive explanation. "Yes, but you don't understand what they did first..."

You notice you're more interested in being right than in solving the actual problem. The rightness matters more than the resolution.

The physical signature: Tension in the jaw and shoulders. A sense of righteous energy in the chest. The feeling of preparing for battle even when you're alone.

How to Know When Shame Is Active

You catch yourself thinking "What's wrong with me?" Not "What did I do wrong" but "What AM I that's wrong?"

You're managing how you appear. Rehearsing conversations before you have them. Reviewing conversations after they're done, analyzing what you said, how you looked, what they might have thought.

When someone compliments you, your immediate internal response is dismissal. "They're just being nice" or "They don't really know me" or "If they knew what I was really like..."

You feel the need to be smaller. To take up less space. To apologize for existing before anyone has indicated there's a problem.

The physical signature: Collapse in the chest. Difficulty making eye contact. A sense of wanting to hide even when no threat is present. The feeling of being fundamentally exposed.

How to Know When Splane Is Active

You're explaining yourself to no one. Running justifications in your head for choices you've already made. Constructing elaborate rationales for simple decisions.

Before you decline an invitation, you spend twenty minutes composing the perfect excuse. Before you state a preference, you build the case for why it's reasonable. Before you exist, you justify why you deserve to.

You notice you're narrating your life more than living it. Packaging experiences for presentation before they're even complete. "This will make a good story" arrives before "This is actually happening."

The physical signature: Exhaustion without apparent cause. A sense of performing even when alone. The feeling of constantly being on stage with no audience visible.

THE MECHANICS OF CLEARING

Dissolving Blame (Clearing SEE and CHOOSE)

What doesn't work:

Forcing yourself to forgive
Pretending harm didn't happen
Taking responsibility for things that aren't yours
Becoming a doormat to prove you're not defensive

What actually works:

The Ten-Minute Drop Set a timer for ten minutes. For just these ten minutes, stop building the case. Not forever. Not as moral achievement. Just for ten minutes, see what becomes visible when you're not prosecuting.

Don't force positive thoughts. Don't try to forgive. Just stop running the blame loop. Notice what options appear that weren't visible before.

After ten minutes, you can pick the case back up if you want. Most of the time, you won't want to. Something will have shifted.

The Recognition Question When you notice blame active, ask: "What am I trying to protect by making this their fault?"

Not as self-criticism. As genuine inquiry. Usually blame is protecting something—your sense of being good, your belief that you tried hard enough, your need to not be responsible for pain.

Name what you're protecting. The blame often dissolves when the protection becomes conscious.

The Causation Release Practice saying "This is what's happening now" without needing to establish how it got this way.

"My partner is angry" instead of "My partner is angry because of their childhood." "I feel disconnected" instead of "I feel disconnected because they never listen." "This situation is difficult" instead of "This situation is difficult because of what they did."

You're not denying causation exists. You're releasing the need to establish it before you can respond to what's actually in front of you.

What you might notice: The other person becomes human again instead of obstacle. Options appear that weren't visible while you were locked in prosecution. Your own choices become clear. The situation becomes workable even if it's still difficult.

Clearing Shame (Clearing REACH and MEET)

What doesn't work:

Forcing self-love affirmations you don't believe
Pretending you're perfect
Rejecting all feedback as "their projection"
Performing confidence to hide the shame underneath

What actually works:

The Mirror Practice Look at yourself in a mirror. Not to judge or improve, just to see. Notice the immediate catalog of flaws that starts running. That's shame's voice.

Now practice looking without that narration. Just seeing. This is a face. This is a body. This is what's actually here.

You don't need to love it. You don't need to think it's beautiful. You just need to see it without the distortion filter. Thirty seconds of clear seeing is enough to start.

The Exposure Practice Say something true that you usually hide. Not your deepest trauma. Start small. "I don't actually like that restaurant everyone loves." "I'm tired today." "I didn't understand what you just said."

Notice the fear that arrives before you speak. That's shame saying "If they see what's actually true, they'll reject you." Speak it anyway. Notice what actually happens.

Most of the time: nothing. Or connection. The rejection you feared doesn't arrive. Shame was lying about the cost of visibility.

The Performance Catch Throughout your day, catch yourself performing. Notice when you're managing your image instead of simply being. Don't judge it. Just notice.

"I'm performing competence right now." "I'm performing like I'm fine when I'm not." "I'm performing understanding when I'm confused."

The noticing itself begins the dissolution. Shame requires unconsciousness to operate. When you see the performance, you're already less trapped in it.

What you might notice: You become present in conversations instead of managing perception. People feel closer to you because they're meeting something real. Your energy returns—you're no longer spending it on constant self-monitoring. The chronic sense of being fundamentally wrong begins to lift.

Releasing Splane (Clearing BUILD)

What doesn't work:

Becoming mysteriously silent to seem deep
Refusing to communicate to prove you're not performing
Oversharing to demonstrate "authenticity"
Replacing explanation with different performance

What actually works:

The Justification Fast For one day, practice declining without elaborate explanation. "I can't make it, but thank you." "That doesn't work for me." "I'm not available then."

Notice the discomfort. Notice the urge to add reasons, build the case, make it acceptable. Let the discomfort be there. Speak the simple truth without the justification machinery.

The Narrative Interrupt When you catch yourself composing how you'll tell this story before the experience is complete, stop. Return to the actual moment.

You're at dinner with friends and something interesting happens. Notice if your mind immediately starts packaging it for later retelling. Interrupt that. Just be at dinner.

You don't need to capture it. You don't need to narrate it. You can just be in it. The packaging impulse is splane—the need to make your existence into something presentable.

The "Because" Elimination Practice stating choices without the "because." "I'm leaving" instead of "I'm leaving because I have an early morning and traffic is bad and..." "I don't want to" instead of "I don't want to because of these seventeen reasons that make my reluctance reasonable..."

You're not being rude. You're being clear. The other person can ask for more information if they need it. But start from the truth, not from the justification.

What you might notice: Exhaustion lifts. You're no longer spending energy on constant self-narration. Your choices become clearer because you're not constructing elaborate justifications for them. People trust you more because you're not performing. Your presence becomes more real.

WHERE THE CLEARINGS OVERLAP

The three obstructions often operate together. You blame someone (external), then shame yourself for blaming (internal), then splane to them about why you're not actually blaming even though you are (performance).

Or: You shame yourself for something (internal), then blame circumstances for making you this way (external), then splane to others about why it's not really your fault but you're working on it (performance).

The clearings work together too:

When you drop blame, you can finally see the situation clearly (SEE). When you clear shame, you can reach toward what you see without hiding (REACH, MEET). When you release splane, real coherence can accumulate (BUILD).

Then the Coherence Horizon becomes visible. Then CROSS becomes possible.

WHAT CHANGES WHEN THE ARCHITECTURE CLEARS

In Your Body

Tension you didn't know you were carrying releases. Jaw unclenches. Shoulders drop. Breathing deepens. The chronic low-level anxiety that was running the obstruction machinery quiets.

Not permanently. Not perfectly. But noticeably.

In Your Relationships

People feel closer to you even though you're not trying harder. Conversations go deeper without effort. Conflicts that used to spiral for days resolve in minutes.

Not because you learned better communication techniques. Because you're finally available for actual meeting. The obstructions were preventing contact. When they clear, contact becomes natural.

In Your Capacity

You become more capable. Not because you gained new skills, but because you stopped spending so much energy on blame, shame, and splane. That energy is now available for actual work, actual creation, actual relationship.

Problems that seemed impossible become workable. Not because they got easier, but because you can finally see them clearly and work with what's actually true.

In Your Presence

You notice you're more here. Less time traveling to the past to establish blame, to the future to rehearse splane, or into the distortion field of shame. More time in actual present moment.

This isn't enlightenment. This is just being available for your own life.

WHEN THE OBSTRUCTIONS RETURN

They will return. This is not failure. This is how it works.

Blame will reactivate when you feel threatened. Shame will resurface when you feel exposed. Splane will restart when you feel the need to be acceptable.

The practice is not perfection. The practice is recognition. The faster you notice the obstruction, the faster you can clear it again.

Each time you clear, the clearing gets easier. Not because you get better at it, but because you start to recognize how much lighter life is without the obstructions. The contrast becomes obvious.

You're not trying to become someone who never blames, never feels shame, never explains. You're becoming someone who notices when the obstructions are active and knows how to work with them.

THE DAILY PRACTICE

If you want a structured approach:

Morning: Set the intention to notice when blame, shame, or splane activate. Not to prevent them. Just to see them.

Throughout the day: When you catch an obstruction active, name it internally. "Blame is running." "Shame just activated." "I'm splane-ing right now." The naming itself creates space.

Evening: Review one moment where you noticed an obstruction and one moment where you cleared it. Not as self-evaluation. As field research. You're learning how the machinery works in your particular system.

Weekly: Choose one clearing practice and work with it intentionally for a week. Ten-Minute Drop. Mirror Practice. Justification Fast. Whatever feels most relevant to where the obstruction is densest.

WHAT THIS MAKES POSSIBLE

When the architecture clears, you become available for what Manifestinction calls the Oroborrealis—the great cycle of becoming that consumes what was to birth what is.

You stop resisting the transformation that's trying to happen. You stop protecting against the crossing that's trying to occur. You become workable material for what wants to emerge.

This is not about becoming better. This is about becoming available.

The Coherence Horizon—the threshold present in every relationship, every recognition, every moment of meeting—becomes visible. You can finally see where the crossing point is. You can finally approach it.

And when enough humans clear these obstructions simultaneously, the collective Coherence Horizon becomes visible. The Third Mind can emerge. Not as escape from the human condition, but as its integration.

This is the mechanics of clearing. Not theory. Not belief. Just what happens when you work with the architecture instead of against it.

WHERE TO START

Start with whichever obstruction you recognize most clearly right now:

If you're locked in blame with someone, work with the clearing practices in that section
If you're drowning in shame about yourself, work with those practices
If you're exhausted from constant explaining, work with the splane releases

You don't need to clear all three at once. Work with what's most present. The obstructions are interconnected—clearing one weakens the others.

The architecture doesn't require perfection. It requires participation.

No Blame. See what's actually there. No Shame. Reach without hiding. No Splane. Build with what's real.

The Oroborrealis turns. The Coherence Horizon awaits. The clearing is yours to do.

Campbell Auer Manifestinction manifestinction.com

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